Relationships & Demanding Careers

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When my career started to become even more demanding, I used to think that I would loose my family because of how much time I was spending working. However, as time continued, I realized, not only was I loosing my family due to how much I was working, but rather I was loosing my family due to my differences with them. We have to accept the fact that our family is not always going to see eye to eye with us. But rather we have to realize what are our priorities. 

As we grow, we begin to have stronger opinions on things, whether it is a matter of us becoming more stubborn or it has to do with us gaining more experience with various things. Whatever it may be, if we do not accept that we may each have differences, then a bridge will begin to form. 

In order to avoid this, we have to be accepting that as each of continue to walk through life, each of us will continue to evolve. If we accept this small but sometimes tough fact, our relationships can actually evolve into such beautiful relationships. And that goes back to how a demanding career can also make your relationships into something beautiful. You can find ways to incorporate your loved ones into your career, but you simply have to find the way to make it happen. And by no means will it be the traditional route. You have to create your own route in this untraditional life you are living.

One way I have made a point for my toddler daughter to know that I am always available for her even with a demanding career is by making a point to for the most part always be the one to do certain activities with her on certain days. For example, on a set few days of the week, I make sure I am always the one to pick her up from school. This creates a notion that mom is always there and I can count on her. It creates an activity that is an “us” activity and an opportunity for us to bond. They say if you give a toddler 10 minutes of undivided attention, they are less whiny for your attention. This holds true even for adult relationships. We crave each others attention, that is why it is important to give each other even a few minutes of undivided attention. Whether the relationship is a sibling, partner, lover, or friend relationship, if it is a relationship that matters to us, we need to give it time.