Life is wild and honestly can never be fully planned. You can try your hardest, however, the saying that god laughs when you have plans is very true….to a degree. You can never get too comfortable when you are depending upon someone else. The only person you can truly depend upon is yourself and either you learn and accept that from the beginning or you learn when life continues to bring you down because you are not ready to be malleable to it. 

I even laugh at myself for making plans without having back ups. From a young age, I always had backups, to the point that my friends would laugh at me, but then when we would have to resort to my backup, they would be glad I had one. See in life, you need to take calculated risks. Life has to be adventurous to a degree, but you have to be smart about it. Life without adventure is not really life lived, at least that is how I feel. But at the same time, you should not take risks that are just straight up bad choices. 

This all comes back to becoming too comfortable in any situation and I have had to learn that in a rather hard way. If someone else is involved, you just can not get comfortable. 

Someone once told me, “we are born alone, we die alone.” You can look at that statement in any way you like. However, the way I related to it the most was the fact that you can only truly depend upon yourself in every which way. From being your own motivator to being your own best friend and everything else. 

I struggled with that, I thought it was ingrained in my head, but truthfully it did not get ingrained in my head till I made it my lock screen saver and when I constantly see it, it becomes a constant reminder. And now, I do not turn to anyone when times get tough. My decisions are the reason I am where I am today and if I want to get out of where I am, my decisions will be the ones to get me out. So my tip to you is depend on yourself and only yourself, sure enjoy time with others and be open, but know at the end of the day only you truly have your own back. 

P.S. This post is meant to be the opposite of bitter if it came across that way at all. Fall in love, have people you can count on, but always count on yourself the most and love yourself. Become happy doing all of the things you enjoy doing alone and then start sharing those experiences with someone else. You will still build beautiful memories with that special someone, but you still know how to make yourself happy and have memories with just yourself. 

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